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by Erin McKay: (02/03/2006)
Yes, this could be a result of all of the following you mentioned -BIRTH OF SON, FATIGUE, LACK OF SLEEP AND REST. PRESSURE FROM HUSBAND. WEIGHT ISSUES.
Try and slow down the pace with your partner though activities that do not lead to intercourse. If intercourse is out of the question for a while this may reduce your lack of desire, by reducing the amount of pressure you feel to please your husband.
Mention to your husband that you need lots of foreplay and that it starts outside of the bedroom. This can include him making dinner, helping with the dishes, giving you a foot massage etc., anything to make you feel appreciated on a continual basis.
It is also important to set aside time for play. Make a date with each other, get a baby sitter, or set aside some time for just the two of you in your room. Engage in sensual activities such as massage, cuddling, kissing, petting, or oral sex without the possibility of intercourse. Simply enjoy each other and proceed at your own pace. After a few sessions when you are in the mood for intercourse then proceed farther.
Editors note: You may also want to visit your doctor for a check up. It is quite common for a woman's testosterone level to drop after childbirth, particularly after the second birth. Without the proper hormone levels, desire can just disappear. When the hormone levels are tested, it is necessary to have your free (bioavailable) testosterone level checked as well as your total testosterone level checked. It is possible to have a total level that is within the normal limits, but to have a low level of free testosterone. Good luck to you, and don't give up. It can take some time to recover from childbirth - not just physically, but also to recover your sexual self. Patty Fawver, editorReviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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