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I met a girl on the net that has herpes( she just found out). and i think she is a very sweet person. what are the chances of leading a normal life with her, including sex....is it possible? if so how? will i get the disease if we take all the procaustions?
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by Georgan Gregg: ()
I’m glad you’ve begun this relationship with honesty & communicating about her diagnosis of herpes. Although herpes can be a serious health issue for some, most experience discomfort and annoyance. You both need to be learning all you can about genital herpes. This is one of the sexually transmitted diseases (STD) that can’t be totally prevented by using latex condoms because lesions can be present in areas that the condom doesn’t provide a barrier. Still, it would be wise to learn more about condoms.
Herpes simplex virus can be type 1 (HSV 1) or 2 (HSV 2), but it's still called genital herpes if the lesion is on the genitals. The skin disease HSV 1 usually shows up as cold sores or fever blisters on the lips, face and mouth, while HSV 2 is usually below the waist. However, there is some crossover. Your new friend may never have another outbreak after the one that sent her to the doctor initially, but she will still have genital herpes. You should know that it's highly probable to produce virus even when there are no symptoms at all, which means she would still be contagious even without symptoms. This is called "asymptomatic shedding."
I recommend that you both learn all you can by phoning the National Herpes Hotline from 9am-7pm Eastern Time M-F at 919/361-8488 (NOT a toll free call, but the best source), followed up by written information they can offer. Next, check out the Herpes Web ring. After learning all the facts, you can gain support and empathy by using the same site to contact others with herpes.
Talking to one another will continue to build a relationship based on trust. You’ve started out with mature, emotionally healthy communication. Keep up the good work & good luck!! Let us know if we can be of further assistance.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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