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by Rajendra Sathe: ()
Thanks for asking this question. You seem to be in great anguish but it will be comforting to know that it is not unusual for some women to lubricate very little. Getting wet inside can vary from time to time how much a woman lubricates. Astroglide or other water based lubricants need to be re-applied several times, so keep the bottle handy, and do not worry if you need to use it several times during lovemaking.
Both of you must try not to focus so much on your lubrication or rather lack of it, since being tense about it may cause you to dry up even more. Your amount of lubrication is not a measure for how much you love your partner.
Instead of concentrating on goals such as erections, ejaculation, and orgasms, try to focus on different sensations: How does your partner's touch feel? What would you like him to do different, what could he do to make it continue feeling good or better? Communicate these messages to him. It takes a lifetime to get to know your own body, and you may encounter pleasant surprises along the way. Take your time to find out what feels good, and enjoy the journey. For example, a lot of women enjoy nipple stimulation (manually, orally or otherwise), and this will often have a direct effect on your genitals. This is actually caused by a physiological reflex between your nipples, the brain and your genitals. Another method to is to try clitoral stimulation with your hand either alone or whilst having sex. Check if this increases the lubrication.
I cannot say if wild yams can help you or not because there isn't any scientific evidence to prove that it helps. At times very arid weather can also make you feel dry inside. At times you may feel dry immediately before or after menses. This is quite normal. However, if you are really concerned that the abortion may have harmed you, I recommend consulting with a gynecologist. Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.
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