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Hi! I'm 16 years old and I'm just getting into a sexual relationship with a girl. Aparently she is more experienced than i am and i wanted to know how safe is oral and anal sex. Are there any precautions i can take. Please advise ASAP. Thank you!
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by Georgan Gregg: ()
I very glad you are thinking about precautions because both oral & anal sex can transmit sexually transmitted diseases (STD). Whether anal sex is mouth to anus or penis in anus (anal intercourse) STD's can easily be passed on. Many people mistakenly think mouth to penis, vagina & anus, or anal intercourse is not “real” sex (vaginal intercourse) & so they have nothing to worry about. Others simply like oral or anal sex (of either kind) because they orgasm easily, or feel more intimate with their lover than with other kinds of sex, or because they think oral or anal sex won’t result in pregnancy.
These are understandable reasons for teens (& adults) to think oral or anal sex is the answer to their fear of STD, including HIV/AIDS, &/or unplanned pregnancy. Problem is that diseases that are sexually transmitted enter our body through mucous membranes, which includes the vagina, urethra (where we pass urine) anus, & mouth. Your girlfriend may not know whether she has an STD or not. Symptoms aren’t always obvious & partners not always completely truthful about their sexual or drug experiences.
The only sure bets for STD prevention are abstaining from sex or mutual monogamy (having sex with only one uninfected partner). You will greatly reduce the chance of STD during oral sex by using condoms for fellatio (mouth to penis) & plastic wrap, condoms cut open to lie flat, or dental dams (latex squares dentists use during dental work) for cunnilingus (mouth to vagina) & analingus (mouth to anus). There are non-lubricated condoms with no taste & flavored condoms especially for oral sex. The other risk you take is that in a moment of excitement the idea of vaginal intercourse may seem too enticing to resist. Unless you already have talked about your sexual limits, birth control, & feel comfortable expressing your concerns to one another, you can go on to have vaginal intercourse & pregnancy can happen.
Your wise decision to ask about these issues shows that you realize sex has important consequences. Unless you have a mutually supportive relationship with your girlfriend, in which on-going trust is complete, you might regret having any type of sex. I recommend the book CHANGING BODIES, CHANGING LIVES: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships by Ruth Bell because it is easy to read & very helpful. I also recommend checking out the great teen sites at The Coalition for Positive Sexuality & American Social Health Association’s website for Teen Sexual Health & STD, iwannaknow. Ideally you can talk over all these issues with a trusted adult. And remember, you can contact us again.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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