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Hello Sir. I have been married since a year and I would like to ask you something but first let me explain u a few things about the way i have sex. I do not use a condom, i insert my penis in my wife's vagina, first satisy her by rubbing my pennis to her sensitive part, then i get satisfied myself by masturbating inside her vagina, but just before i am about to ejaculate i remove my pennis. The Problem is that while my pennis is inside her vagina i feel no sensation, that is don't enjoy at all, in fact sometimes the outer skin of my penis gets rolled in and the inner portion of my penis gets exposd which causes burning sensation. What should i do so that i can enjoy while i try to satisy her. Also please give me some tips as to how to use the condom becasue when i put the condom on, again my outer skin gets rolled in and the inner part gets exposed which prevents me from enjoying. Also please tell me why do some men use Vaseline? Also could you tell more about the different positions i can be in while having sex I would be thankful if you could remove some precious time to answer these questions.

Answer:
by Rajendra Sathe: ()
In many uncircumcised men, the skin on the glans (head) of the penis is sensitive if they have never unrolled the foreskin and washed the inner skin with soapy water. To maintain proper hygiene its imperative that all uncircumcised men wash this area daily (after pulling back the foreskin). This prevents the accumulation of ‘smegma’ which is sticky white offensive smelling substance under the foreskin. This may also solve burning of this ‘sensitive’ area of your penis. Another cause of irritation of the glans could be lack of lubrication of your partner during sex. Although men use Vaseline as a lubricant, it is advisable to use a water-soluble sterile lubricant (like K-Y Jelly). Using good lubricated condoms should avoid the burning sensation on your penis. Pick up any illustrated book on the Kama-Sutra to see the different sexual positions. Remember that not all positions are workable for everyone. Some positions shown and described are ‘bandhas’ or knots and no movements are possible when a couple is engaged in that posture.

Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology

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