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Are there any problems with masturbating too frequently? I have been masturbating for as long as I can remember (since before puberty). In my teenage years I would frequently maturbate multiple times a day and ejaculate multiple times each session. Usually around 4 to 6 ejaculations a day. Now it's normally 2-3 orgasms (with ejaculation, now multi-orgasmic) a day. I read on another site that this can increase the sexual aging process. Is there any truth to this?
I recently have started having sexual relationships for the first time (mid 20's) and have difficulty maintaining erections upon penetration. I know this is partly if not mainly caused by performance anxiety but I'm not sure if there are other problems as well, how to determine which factors are contributing to my problem, and what can be done about it.
When I masturbate now I will often peak several times before allowing myself to ejaculate. I can normally bring myself to orgasm is a relatively short period of time. I had the fear before my first sexual encounter that I would have problems with premature ejaculation and so I worked a bit on becoming multi-orgasmic with some success. I'm wondering if conditioning myself to delay and even strengthing my PC muscles can be a cause of this.
Usually oral sex or manual stimulation can get me hard without any trouble but as soon intercourse begins I lose my erection in about a minute.
I speculate several reason but not sure which is the case or what I can do to remedy the problem. I suspect performance anxiety and/or reduced sensitivity due to a condom.
It is a lot harder to get hard through oral or manual stimulation a few times after going soft upon penetration. This leads me to believe it's mainly performance anxiety.
I experienced the problem of losing my erection much faster in the missionary position as mentioned in another post. Having my partner on top seems to work the best for me. Are there other positions that work well as well?
Also, what is a good time to wait between ejaculatory orgasms to achieve the maximum performance from being with my partner? Does having non-ejaculatory orgasms (as in multiple orgasms) cause any lose of sensation or sexual tension?
How can I diagnose this problem and treat it?
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by Megan Andelloux: (10/23/2005)
O My God you are fabulous! Do you know many times I talk about how men can learn to become multi-orgasmic through paying attention to their bodies during masturbation? You are that man and you should give yourself a great big pat on the back for treating your body so well! Now, onto your questions, I just had to gush about your "work"!
"I speculate several reason but not sure which is the case or what I can do to remedy the problem. I suspect performance anxiety and/or reduced sensitivity due to a condom." You are right on and if you put some lubrication (water or silicone based only please-no massage lotion or baby oil) it will increase the sensation loss you experience with condom usuage-very common complant and experience (loss of erection).
Performance anxiety is also something I would like you to try to reduce. It sounds like you are doing a fabulous job honey, and you have nothing to worry about. Lots of guys find it difficult to be as hard during oral or manual stimulation, you are not alone. So, if that's the case, approach those behaviors as not things that are going to get you "off" but rather as appitizers to the main course.
"I'm wondering if conditioning myself to delay and even strengthing my PC muscles can be a cause of this." Doing this is fabulous for your health actually, toning your muscles is NEVER a bad thing and you receiving more orgasms due to this behavior-how could that be negative? :)
"Are there any problems with masturbating too frequently? I have been masturbating for as long as I can remember (since before puberty). In my teenage years I would frequently maturbate multiple times a day and ejaculate multiple times each session. Usually around 4 to 6 ejaculations a day. Now it's normally 2-3 orgasms (with ejaculation, now multi-orgasmic) a day. I read on another site that this can increase the sexual aging process. Is there any truth to this?" Answer: Crap. Absolute Crap.
As long as you are masturbating in a private place and you are not causing any chaffing or physical damage to your body and you are comfy with what you are doing, you are doing NO HARM, No Sexual Aging, to your body!
So, try and learn to relax in regards to sexual performance. A hard penis is not nescessary to have great sex. Sex is more than just sticking a penis in a hole, it's about the whole process. It sounds as though you last a long time and enjoy numerous peaks throughout the time you are hard, revel in that! If you lose your erection, consider and frame it to your parner as a way to have more foreplay! I don't know a man alive who doesn't want their penis touched when they are choosing to be sexual with another person, so just consider it more time to have your penis touched!
I wish you the best of luck in your future sexual explorations and appreicate you writing in!
Megan Andelloux
Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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