In the profile that you wrote you also explain very well WHY you think it is happening. You say that you are absolutely comfortable with your girlfriend, but there are lots of things that you worry about. Getting her pregnant, her possibly wanting another experience, and even disappointing her are all very good reasons to worry.

I hope you are able to talk to her about all these concerns. That will help. Getting nervous is very normal. There is lots of pressure on you to 'perform' and there doesn't have to be. Since you have had slightly more experience than she that doesn't mean you have to know and do everything. The two of you can do it together.

It sounds as if you do that with sex play and oral sex. When it comes to intercourse, things change. It doesn't matter that you have a fast ejaculation as much as what you do with other stimulation of your partner. It usually isn't only through intercourse that women get the most pleasure in sex play. The clitoris is what may need more stimulation, so body positioning, touching of the clitoris, and lots of touching play is what some women enjoy. This is what the two of you need to find out together.

If you are fearful of pregnancy (and I applaud you for making sure that you ALWAYS use a condom) then you may want to suggest that she get on a hormonal method so that you have even better protection oR you limit your sex play to everything BUT intercourse. That would then cut down on your nervousness and the two of you can learn to enjoy each other and bring each other to orgasm without the risks of intercourse.

I understand your stress, and you might be relieved to know this is common. She may even feel the stress as well - wanting to please you and not knowing what to do (so you have to show her or tell her), worrying about pregnancy herself, and worrying if she lives up to the other women in your life. I would bet she has the same concerns that you have.

Thanks for writing and please feel free to write again.

Reviewed by: Scott Gross M. Ed.