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I had sex with my girlfreind for the first time yeserday. She was a virgin, i wasnt. After having sex, she didnt bleed? Does this mean she is still a virgin? Does a girl have to bleed to break her virginty? She found it painfull but didnt bleed. i didnt take my penis all the way in because she it was her first time so wanted to be getnle with her. She's feeling uncomfortable about it because she wanted the first time to be more special. Can u please help me out.
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by Raven James: (06/25/2005)
Please do not be alarmed by your experience! Some women do not bleed on their first sexual encounter (or ever, for that matter!) Painful intercourse is a quite common occurence for women when they have their first sexual encounter. A girl does not have to bleed to lose her virginity. The term "virgin" can be defined on an individual basis as well. Some people consider a virgin someone who has never had penetration of the vagina by a penis. Other people feel the if they have had oral sex or anal sex (in the butt)that they are still virgins, while some feel that any sexual behavior means that they are not virgins.
It is important when you are in a relationship with another person to have a conversation about what virginity means to them, as it can be very different from person to person. We want to be careful not to make assumptions about a term like virgin, because if your definition is different from your partners, either one of you could be at risk for an STD or HIV.
As far as wanting the first time to be special, it is very common for the first time to be awkward, embarassing or painful for many people, regardless of their gender. It sounds as though you tried to be considerate of your partner. Sometimes before intercourse, if people can include more behaviors such as kissing, touching, rubbing the genital area and breasts, their bodies can become more aroused and prepared for intercourse. Sexual arousal will help lubricate the vagina (get it wet) and this will help intercourse be more pleasurable. With time, you will both learn more about what each of you like, and this will also help.Reviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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