After saying that, I would say that sexual exploration and pleasure is not bad. It is a way couples express intimacy and love to one another. Giving each other pleasure is one of the best gifts we have for each other.

Some people believe that a couple should not even hold hands or kiss one another before they are married. Others would say that any type of sexual pleasuring is good except having intercourse. That should be saved for marriage. And others would say that sexual intimacy and expression is good regardless and that sharing this with someone whether married or not is part of the way couples grow in love.

Couples all over the world struggle with how and when to engage in sexual pleasuring with each other. What you did is a very 'natural' form of expression where mutual pleasure is shared.

Only you can determine what limits you wish to set with a partner before and even after marriage. Couples may choose not to engage in all the possible behaviors whether they are married or not. Sharing pleasure is important to the relationship.

I hope that helps a little. Please feel free to ask other questions if you have them.

Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team