It is not unusual for someone your age, to get very horny when talking to someone he/she is attracted to. The hard part is understanding that being horny is normal AND it doesn't mean you have to take action on it.

Many times in our lives we are horny and it is not the right time, the right person, or the right situation to do anything.

Since he has a girlfriend that you described in your profile, he has some issues about talking with you as well. You can't do anything about what he is going through. HE has to decide that for himself. Just remember - if he leaves his girlfriend for you, you may feel pressure to do more sexually with him than you are ready for, and that may not be good for you.

You, on the other hand, have lots of reasons to think hard about whether having intercourse with him will actually be the right decision. First, since you masturbate, you probably have the best release of those strong sexual feelings. Often, girls especially, find that having intercourse doesn't really cause a release. There is often no orgasm, which is what would release the 'horniness' and then you have the other issues, such as disappointing your mom and others, possibly getting pregnant or a disease, and then finding that he leaves you and goes back with his girlfriend.

When you suggested that you wanted to have sex, that is assuming that sex would relieve your feelings of getting horny. There are lots of other ways to have those feelings relieved. Just heavy making out, without the risks involved in intercourse, can give people the release they need. And, what is so bad about being horny? There are many people out there who WISH they could get those feelings. You are lucky to have such wonderfully strong feelings, and when you masturbate you can fantasize about anyone or anything you want, with no risks!

Please feel free to write back again, since it sounds as if you may have more questions as you work through this situation.

Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team