Question:
Ive been masturbating for several years, a lot, at some points i even did 4 times in a single day. Now I have three problems: my penis seems to bend a little to the left and low, I have a urinary problem having a constant need to use the bathroom, but only a few drops urine come out, and I feel like I have an erection weaker than before. I recently met this girl and and she's willing to have sex with me, and one day when we were in an intimate momen she started masturbating my penis to arouse me and I just didn't had a decent erction. Was it the nerves and anxiety, or the result of too much masturbation? I feel desperate. Are this problems from overmasturbation.
Please note that Im an healthy 18 y.o. male virgin, who's been masturbating for about 6 years now. Please tell me, if I stop masturbating will this problems disappear? I really need to know.
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Answer:
by Konstance McCaffree: (05/19/2004)
Thanks for a great question, which I know other males have asked about as well. Masturbation is NOT the cause of any of the issues that you describe in your question. In fact young males find that masturbating, once their bodies begin having those strong sexual feelings, is a very helpful way to relieve them AND to enjoy the pleasures of their body. YOu mentioned that you masturbate alot, even 4 times in a single day. That actually isn't considered an extraordinarily large number of times at all. Four times is great. It means that your body is getting aroused several times, and someday you can enjoy those same pleasures multiple times with a partner. There is a myth that a man having intercourse with a partner, can only do it once and then he need lots of rest until the next day. Masturbating several times a day only shows the falacy (falsehood) of that.
Now, on to your other concerns. Now that your adult body is forming, at age 18, your penis is actually beginning to get its adult shape. You still aren't completely developed. Penises come in all shapes and sizes. Many are bent to one side or the other and hang high, low or in between. This is not related to masturbation but your own development into adulthood. There is nothing that causes that size and shape you describe but your genetic makeup.
The urinary problem also isn't related to masturbation. I urge you to see a doctor about that because you may have an infection that needs to be treated. It probably isn't sexually transmitted if you have not had intercourse with a partner yet, but there are other infections that are common to the urinary tract which may result from diet, hygiene or other causes. When urine isn't coming out, there is probably some swelling near the bladder or in the urinary tract that that is keeping urine from flowing.
As for the time when you were with the girl and you didn't have a "decent erection", that is such a common reaction. Your anxiety, worry and concern about performance, and what she is thinking about you are very likely to keep you from having an erection. This happens to men all the time, especially when they are with someone that is very exciting to them or in a new situation.
Since masturbation isn't causing any of these situations, there is no reason to stop. What you do need to do is get the urinary tract infection checked out. Once that is treated then you can relax and enjoy the sexual experiences you encounter with a parter, as well as masturbation. Remember to make sure you are well protected, so that you don't get a disease from someone, or create a pregnancy that you don't want.
Thanks for writing and feel free to write again if you have questions. Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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