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hello i am 15 A few days ago my boyfriend fingered me and also placed his penis on me but over my panties. I'm not sure if he cummed or not but my most important concern is that my period hasn't come yet, i am just a few days late but this is my first time doing any of this and i am very scared. please write back and explain if there is a possiblity that i may become pregnant. I would also like to know when he fingers me it really hurts but feels good at the same time. After a while i become very aroused im not sure whether or not that is an orgasm or if im cumming. And my last question is can i loose my virginity by my boyfriend fingering me? Please answer as son as ypu can thank you
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by Larry Siegel: ()
Thanks for writing in. While your questions are important and your concerns very real, I would like to suggest that you really begin learning about sexuality and your body. It really helps make sex better - and safer - when you have good information about your body and sex in general. I'm attaching a few links that will help you get started.
With regard to getting pregnant in what you described, I don't think there's any real chance that it could happen. Having your period be late a few days doesn't mean anything; it's not an exact timetable. Hopefully, by the time you get this, you will have started your period. I understand your being scared. Let that show you how important it is to really learn about all of this before you really start being sexually active. Knowledge eliminates fear.
With regard to your other questions, yes, fingering you can break your hymen and, in a technical sense, lose your virginity. But please remember that through bike riding, being physically active in something like gymnastics, climbing fences or trees, a girl can break her hymen. Being a "virgin" these days can mean so many things. Basically, it means never having intercourse - a penis in your vagina.
If it hurts when your boyfriend fingers you, it may be because your vagina is not well lubricated. As you begin to enjoy it, you get wet and it makes it easier for his finger to slide in and out of you. In order for it not to hurt, you should be wet before he puts it in. It's good that you become aroused and (I assume) get very wet from this. Sometimes it takes a while to get to know and understand your orgasms (which is the same as cumming) so as long as it feels good for you, don't worry about orgasming or not. As you become more comfortable in these activities, with your own body, and your feelings, the level of pleasure will continue to increase and you will be able to experience an orgasm as a release. It usually takes some time in the beginning, though. Don't worry about it right now; just enjoy it.
I hope this has been of some help to you. Please remember that learning about sex, pleasure, and your body is the best way to get the most out of sex. And you don't even have to have a partner! I wish you well and hope everything is positive for you.
Take care of yourself. peace
Larry SiegelReviewed by: Patricia Fawver Ph.D. in Sexology
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