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Question:
My 14 year old son is trying stuff on his younger
sisters. His mother and I are divorced, and we are both
re-married with families of our own. He lives with his
mother, and i get him every other weekend. about six
months ago he got in trouble at his home trying stuff
with his 10 year old sister. both families had long talks
with him about why this is wrong, and we thought
things were under control. now this week-end at my
home, he was caught trying stuff with my 9 year old
daughter. right now he is not really welcomed at
either home, and we don't know what to do. do you
have any advice? i would really appreciate a e-mail
response if possible. Thank you for your help. This is a
big problem - i love my son, but i don't want anything
to happen to my daughters.
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Answer:
by Wendy Maltz: ()
Your 14 year old son has a serious problem and
needs help. This kind of behavior requires professional
intervention. It's not enough to sit down with him and
tell him to stop. Regardless of their good intentions,
people who suffer from compulsive sexual thoughts and
behaviors are usually unable to keep their promises.
Your son needs to get in to see a child psychologist or
clinical social worker who specializes in counseling
teen sexual offenders. His victims and all the family
members could benefit from counseling, as well.
Though you need to set limits on where your son lives,
don't reject him altogether. He, as well as your
daughters, need your help with understanding what
happened, reestablishing safety and trust, and
long-term healing.
Wendy Maltz MSWReviewed by: Kathleen VanKirk DHS
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