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Question:
My husband is 37 years old. We have been married for 8
years. We have no children. He has been having problems
staying hard during sex. I have recently found out that he has
been masturbating using pornographic magazines. Could his
impotence be linked to this behavior? He has been doing this
throughout our entire marriage. Our sex lives have been
suffering for the past 3 or 4 years. He blames his back
problems on our lack of sex yet seems to have no interest in
sex unless I initiate. I have gotten turned down by him many
times in the past and have virtually given up leading to almost
no sex. We just started counseling but I would appreciate any
insights you may have to this problem. Thanks.
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Answer:
by : (05/13/2004)
I am pleased to see that you are in counseling. If your
husband can masturbate with good erections using
pornography, it sounds like his erectile problems during sex
are more relationship based than a physical problem. Once
private masturbation takes the place of, or interferes with sex
in the relationship, then the couple would be advised to
explore what is happening between them. It is a time for
talking about the relationship and the role of sex in the
relationship. At the simple level, the problem could reflect a
need to explore what is needed to increase his sexual arousal
with the partner. If other, more complicated issues are
involved, they can be addressed in therapy. Stay with the
counseling and see what happens.Reviewed by Sexual Health Editorial Team
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